Deciding what "enough" is
The culprit keeps changing. What sits underneath it doesn't.
ReadWriting
Notes on getting unstuck.
Once a week, an essay on the psychology of capable people and the things that quietly keep us stuck.
Getting Unstuck
The strategist's habits, pointed at a life instead of a company.
The interim metrics of "enough"
"Define enough" is advice that sounds complete and changes nothing. Here's the part I left out.
ReadThe forced deadline
Consulting and business school drilled one rule: you'll never have all the information, so make the call.
ReadClinging to procrastination
I built a tool to fight procrastination, then wondered if people procrastinate on using it too.
ReadThe breakdown behind the dream
A founder once asked me if anyone else is building their dream life and having a breakdown about it at the same time.
ReadBeing in process
We treat "still figuring it out" as a liability. What if it's the opposite?
ReadLeadership & Management
What running teams and companies actually teaches you.
Conviction and humility are not opposites
What business school taught me about standing firm and staying open at the same time.
ReadGive people the why, not just the how
A BCG partner almost labeled me as lacking EQ. What he was actually missing was context.
ReadThree kinds of smart
Some of your smartest team members might be underperforming for reasons you can actually predict.
ReadWhy self-assured leaders win
In the 1990s, a Harvard professor made a surprising discovery about the best-performing teams.
ReadClose your laptop at 5PM
A challenge from my BCG partner on my very first project as a manager reshaped how I lead, and how I live.
ReadBe willing to disappoint
My wish for any new CEO, especially women.
ReadCareer Transitions & Purpose
The specific ache of changing paths, and what actually moves you through it.
The competence trap
Why capable people stay for years in work they have outgrown.
ReadWhy purpose rarely comes first
On the prestige to purpose arc, and why you cannot skip it.
ReadAm I a good fit
Behind this question is the quiet hope that knowing in advance could save you the heartbreak of trying.
ReadThe transition nobody warned you about
We call it a mid-life crisis, and rush to get out of it.
ReadWhen the old way of setting goals stops working
A personal goal only works when your mind is ready for it.
ReadBetter questions make better career advice
To get better career advice, stop asking "what did you do?" and start asking "how did you think?"
ReadThe Psychology of High Performers
Why capable people stall, doubt, or burn out, and what actually shifts it.
Productivity in my 20s vs my 30s
In my 20s it meant squeezing in and crossing off. Now it means something else entirely.
ReadWhen your goals and your values are quietly at war
No amount of productivity hacks or discipline can override an inner tension you haven't named.
Read7 emotional drivers of procrastination
Procrastination isn't about laziness or poor time management. It's about emotion regulation.
ReadSelf-acceptance is not the enemy of growth
Self-acceptance without a growth mindset does the damage.
ReadThe authenticity trap
When I was 8, I unexpectedly won 3rd place in a citywide poetry contest. Then I stopped writing poems completely.
ReadWhat Djokovic taught me about self-compassion
For a long time, mental toughness meant controlling how you feel. This proves otherwise.
ReadAI & Judgment
What machines get wrong, and what that reveals about being human.
What AI's hallucinations reveal about leaders
OpenAI explained why AI "hallucinates." Many leaders are trained the same way.
ReadAI doesn't know purpose
A Google Chief Decision Scientist's viral post left me uneasy, because it applies to plenty of humans too.
ReadThe AI echo chamber experiment
Is AI helping or hurting our ability to manage ourselves? My takeaways after an experiment that challenged my own self-awareness.
ReadIdentity, Family & Becoming
The personal and generational material.
What ten years and 500 cases taught a room of strangers
At my HBS 10th reunion, the story was less about proving we made it.
ReadThree generations, three questions
My parents first traveled overseas at 30. Mine was at 18. My son boarded his first international flight at 2.
ReadWhat I want my son to learn about fear
I confront my fears so my kid doesn't inherit them.
ReadWhat self-promotion looks like once you stop calling it that
From cringing at self-promotion to posting with ease and joy. The turning point was a reframe.
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